Tips and Techniques
So now that you know the basics, how do you actually have an orgasm?
Since it varies for everyone, there are no fool-proof, step-by-step instructions. That said, there are a few simple
things you can try – with a partner, with a vibrator, or with nothing but your own two hands and your imagination
– that should get you well on your way toward the big climax.
On Your Own
Many women find it easier to have autoerotic orgasms (orgasms through masturbation) than with a partner. After all, you know better
than anyone what makes you feel good. Plus, it can be easier to let yourself go when there's no audience. Here are some suggestions
to get to know your body –
- Walk before you run. Just like any good date should, treat yourself right and set the mood. Turn off your phone, lock the
door, dim the lights, put on some music – whatever feels right to you.
- Stay warm. A study recently covered by the BBC News reported that a woman is 30% more likely to have an orgasm if her feet
are warm. A hot bath (or some sexy, sexy wool socks) is a great way to go.
- Get comfy. Many women masturbate while lying on their backs with their knees up and their legs spread. Others prefer lying
face-down or even on their side with their legs wrapped around a pillow. Experiment and see what feels best for you.
- Start thinking. What turns you on? Think about a scenario, imaginary or real that turns you on. Maybe there's a sexy scene
from a book you read that you want to recall. This is one of the most fun parts – there are no restrictions on what you think about
to get excited. If you want something to help get you started, try reading some erotica or watching a softcore film.
- Work yourself up. Foreplay isn't just for partners. Don't be in a rush to get to your vagina, touch yourself elsewhere to turn
yourself on. Rubbing your thighs, stomach, neck or breasts can build arousal.
- Let your fingers do the work. Using one finger or several, explore your vagina. Caress different parts – your inner and outer
labia, your clitoris, your vagina and your perineum. See what feels especially good.
- Or use a vibrator. Try using a vibrator to stimulate your vagina, clitoris and nipples in a way that your fingers can't. External
vibrators, like FORM 2 are perfect for adding sensation.
- The main event. When you feel good and ready, use a finger or two to rhythmically stroke the area around your
clitoris. You can use lubricant or saliva to keep things slippery. Place a finger on either side of the clitoris and stroke
up and down, or put your finger on the clitoral hood and rub in a circular motion. Experiment with a variety of
pressures, speeds and motions. Some women enjoy adding penetration to their play. You can use your
fingers, a dildo, or an internal vibrator, like FORM 4, FORM 6, LITTLE CHROMA
or ICONIC SMOOTHIE.
- Play with breath and motion. Clenching and releasing your PC
muscles (pubococcygeus muscles) can make it easier to have an orgasm.
You can also try rocking your pelvis back and forth and breathing
deeply. These are all physical cues that tell your brain that you're
ready to have an orgasm.
- If at first you don't succeed... You know the
rest. Just remember, learning to have an orgasm
is a lot more fun than learning your multiplication
tables. And possibly more important (don't tell
your 4th grade math teacher). The good news is
that once you've done it a few times by yourself,
it's easier to do again and again – either alone or
as a team. Just like riding a bike. A bike that makes
you feel amazing.
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