Introducing a vibrator into your relationship needn't be daunting.
Approach it as a newcomer, even if you've both used vibrators on your own or with others before. Just as you needed to get to know one another when you first began having sex, it may take some time to get comfortable using a vibrator together as well. Start small (literally and figuratively), and progress together from there.
Here are a few of the most common stumbling blocks, accompanied by some suggestions we hope you'll find useful. Every relationship is different, so be creative and adjust as necessary to meet your needs. And if you're looking for further guidance, don't hesitate to Ask Jimmyjane.
PS – The same approach that's outlined below can easily be adapted to other desires as well...
What sort of vibrator should we start with?
Many of the same considerations we recommend for individuals introducing themselves to vibrators also apply to couples getting started.
Follow the suggestion that best fits your comfort and experience level with your partner.
- Start simple.
If vibration is a new sensation to either or both of you, you'll likely find that there's quite a bit of adventure available in that alone. Add in the excitement of being together for the experience, and you've got more than enough stimulation. Consider simple, understandable products focused on clitoral stimulation such as a Bullet, Smoothie, or External Vibrator.
- Start approachable.
Trying a vibrator for the first time (particularly with another person present) is an exciting but potentially daunting prospect. Consider designs that are unintimidating – smaller sizes, cleaner design and good packaging and presentation can all help. Steer away from larger sizes and anatomically representational products; they can prompt unintended comparisons.
- Start beautiful.
If anything should be beautiful, it's the objects involved in our sexuality. Choosing a product that's aesthetically pleasing can help make the introduction go smoothly. It communicates that your sexual experiences together are an important part of the relationship, and are worthy of care and consideration. We've heard some great success stories of LITTLE SOMETHING helping to make the conversation a positive one – who'd turn down a 24k gold vibrator?