There are two essential keys to anal sex:
Lots and LOTS of lube and slowly take it.
You'll want to start with the bit of penetration possible—a finger. This might seem to go without saying, but the finger must be clean with a short (not sharp!) nail.
Apply way more lube than expected, and you may even want to use a small finger sleeve, like this one. Enter and exit slowly, and don't speed up until you truly feel ready for it. And don't forget... MORE LUBE!
How to Make Anal Sex Less Painful?
Start with small, soft tapered plugs or probes when you're ready to level up. Make sure that whatever anal toy you use must have a broader base than its most comprehensive insurable portion. This is imperative whether you're new to anal or an expert. JIMMY JANE's Anal Collection is an excellent start as it features a handful of smooth, tapered silicone plugs that steadily graduate from extra small to extra large.
To explore penetration, try a smaller tapered probe like this super-soft Tapered Teaser before graduating to firmer textured items like the Ribbed P-Spot Vibe (though not exclusive to prostates!) You'll find that the longer you practice anal sex, the easier and more pleasurable it will become. The anus is almost elastic, requiring regular attention to maintain elasticity.
Once you've gained experience, you can explore the vast array of anal toys, including various materials like metal and glass. Due to the rigidness of these materials, it's best kept for advanced anal players and should always be used consciously and cautiously.
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How to use Lube for Anal Sex?
- Use lube. Lots of lube. More lube than you'd ever expect... and then some. And don't forget to reapply throughout play.
- Start very small—with a finger—before gradually working your way up to incrementally larger sizes.
Gooooooooooooooo slooooooooowwwwwwww. As a beginner, never start fast or hard. You can slowly increase speed once you're used to penetration.
- The anus is kind of elastic and requires regular attention. The more you play, the more it will acclimate to penetration.
- And seriously, do NOT forget the lube!
Lubricants can enhance your sex life by helping you experience bigger orgasms when having sex with your partner or for self-pleasure. Use an intimate lubricant during intercourse to turn up the heat in the bedroom and make your sex more enjoyable and painless.