Don't Hold Your Breath - The Art Of Breathing and Sex

Breathing is one thing you may not realize can enhance sexual pleasure, whether through solo play or a collaborative effort. You might think, "What? But breathing is so easy!" There are many factors that you might not be aware of when it comes to breathing and having sex. 

Even if you're not getting down and dirty, your breathing can tell you or your partner a lot about how you or they are physically and mentally feeling. Deep breathing can help ease the mind and body — which can also help with your bedroom activities.

Here are a few things to help you tune into your body for a more significant and pleasurable experience.

Why Breathing Is An Important Factor During Sex?

Sex is a full-body workout! That's why breathing during sex is an important thing to pay attention to. Just as you would pay attention to your breathing at the gym, it is also essential to focus on your breathing in the bedroom.

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The way you breathe can tell you a lot about the state of your mind and your body. If you're feeling stressed, you might experience fast and shallow breathing, or you might find that you hold your breath instead. You might also share your muscles tense up, further restricting the oxygen circulating your body. With less oxygen in your body, you may get tired more easily. 

Breathing is part of everything that you do. Since it's an involuntary act of your body, you might not notice how it can affect your sex life. Circulating oxygen throughout your body properly helps maintain stamina and allows you to be more aware of your senses. Deep breathing can do wonders to help straighten out your body and relax your muscles for a great experience.

How Better Breathing Can Lead to Better Sex?

Breathing and sex are more related than you think. For one, both involve the pelvic floor — a flat muscle that connects your pubic bone and your tailbone.

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When you breathe in, your lungs expand, and your diaphragm contracts to create room for extra space. Your abdominals and pelvic floor then relax for accommodating your organs that move downward. When you exhale, your pelvic floor and abdominals contract just a bit as everything else relaxes to push out the carbon dioxide from your body.

But, during sex, the pelvic floor is an important muscle that helps seek pleasure. A tight and contracted pelvic floor at the wrong time can stop you from having a satisfying orgasm. Once you learn how to relax your pelvic floor, you can experiment with the right amount of contracting and relaxing for better pleasure. 

Since the pelvic floor is so vital to breathing and sex, it goes without saying that being aware of how you breathe is the first step toward better sex. 

How Breathing Exercises Benefit You During Sex?

Breathing exercises are great not just for the bedroom but also for everyday life too. Many of the breathing exercises taken from meditation, yoga and weightlifting can be used to help seek greater pleasure in sex. 

In addition to reducing stress, practicing deep breathing can help you:

  • Lower anxiety
  • Ease depression
  • Relax your body
  • Lower your blood pressure
  • Clear your mind

Learning to control breathing can also help with controlling sexual arousal. Mastering breathing techniques will mean you're in control of your body, allowing for more experimentation and a better time in bed. You can guide yourself to climax more easily than before with enough practice.‌

How You Can Breath to Last Longer?

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There are plenty of ways to be more aware of your breathing during bed. Don't worry. You don't need to be a meditation expert for this. Here are a few tips to help get you started on your path to pleasure:

Find a place where you can be at peace. Concentration is essential to figuring out your breathing habits and correcting them if necessary.

  • Have good posture. With good posture, the muscles needed for breathing have an easier time moving the way they're meant to move. You can lie down, sit upright, or stand — just make sure that your back is straight.

  • ‌Always breathe in through your nose. Inhaling through your mouth is related to stress. It can cause your body to tense up.

  • Breathe down into your stomach. It will help your diaphragm and pelvic floor to contract and relax entirely at your control through the act of breathing alone.

While being conscious of your breathing might feel a little strange at first, controlling your breathing will help in the long run.

Go ahead and pair these tips with other activities, such as yoga poses like child's pose. And don't stop there! Apply it in the bedroom alone or with a partner.

How Breathing Techniques Result in Better Orgasms‌?

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With deep breathing, you can allow your body to relax for longer. This way, your body doesn't use brain space unnecessarily tighten your muscles; thus, you achieve more pleasure. More importantly, you have the freedom to feel the sensations in all the right places and get more control over when you want to orgasm.

Practicing breathing techniques during sex or masturbation can also help you find what you like and explore things you might not have noticed before. Just be careful not to focus on your breathing too much, or else you'll end up distracting yourself from the real goal — climax! 

Breathing Techniques You Can Use During Sex

There are many ways you may incorporate your new breathing habits into play. Here are the two most common ones: 

  • Rhythmic breathing can be used to help with all sorts of stresses. Pairing breathing with movement helps blood circulation, vital for achieving incredible orgasms. And, as long as you're in control of your breathing, you can speed up or slow down as much as you want.

  • Synchronized breathing — also used in tantric sex — is excellent for a partnered experience. It's also great for increasing intimacy emotionally and physically. This technique requires at least two people.

In Closing

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To reiterate, breathing control is essential to have the best sex! Most importantly, remember that practice makes perfect. It will take you some time to change the way you breathe, mainly because you've been organically doing it your whole life without paying much attention to it. 

Once you get comfortable with the new way your body moves as you breathe, you'll be that much better at finding pleasure in the bed!

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Relaxation techniques: Breath control helps quell errant stress response. (July 2020). Harvard Health Publishing.

A 4-Step Guide to Lasting Longer During Sex. (August 2017). Esquire Magazine.

How to Practice Tantric Sex: 26 Tips for Masturbation and Partner Play. (October 2019). Healthline.