Most people love having sex with their other half. It's fun, sexy, and a great way to connect. But sometimes passion can cool off in a marriage, leaving you wondering what you can do to bring it back.
One excellent way to get some excitement back into the bedroom is to use sex toys for married couples.
What are the best sex toys for married couples?
We'll give you some irresistible options in this article. But first, let's consider what causes a loss of intimacy and some other ways you can bring passion back into your marriage.
Causes and Effects of a Lack of Intimacy in Marriage
Emotional and physical intimacy is the foundation of a fulfilling and happy married life, so losing it can be devastating.
Understanding the causes and effects of a lack of intimacy in marriage can help you pinpoint changes you can make in your relationship to begin rebuilding it.
Stress causes physical, mental, and emotional issues that can snowball and lead to a lack of intimacy in a marriage.
Stress can come from various sources, such as:
- Pressure from family, work, or school
- A loss of control over a situation
- Overwhelming responsibilities
- Death of a loved one
- Loss of a job
- Major life changes
- Relationship issues
When these situations overlap or continue for a long time, you and your partner may develop chronic stress. This can result in constantly elevated cortisol levels, your body's stress hormone.
Elevated cortisol levels reduce testosterone — the primary hormone that controls the sex drive — in the body. So chronic stress can directly cause a constantly low sex drive.
When you couple that with the emotional and mental strains of constant stress, it's no wonder that you or your partner may lose interest in any after-hours activities.
2. Unresolved Relationship Issues
Long-standing relationship issues can also cause a lack of intimacy in a marriage. Unresolved emotions like resentment or anger can cause you or your partner to pull away and become physically and emotionally distant.
Rejection can also be another unresolved issue that can affect intimacy. It cripples self-esteem and makes you feel unattractive and unwanted.
If left unchecked, these issues become vicious cycles that can completely suck intimacy out of a marriage.
3. Physical Issues
Chronic health issues like diabetes or hypertension can cause a loss of libido and decrease sexy times in the sack.
Sexual issues may also cause a lack of confidence and even a loss of interest in sex. Women may experience sexual dysfunction such as:
- Vaginal dryness
- Painful intercourse
- Low libido
- Difficulty becoming aroused or orgasming
- Loss of elasticity
Men also experience sexual dysfunction, including:
- Erectile dysfunction
- Prostate issues
- Inhibited or delayed ejaculation
- Premature ejaculation
- Low libido
Whether you're a man or a woman, sexual dysfunction can negatively affect your self-esteem and confidence no matter what your partner says. This can lead to a loss of intimacy as you shy away from sex or even develop performance anxiety.
How To Build Intimacy in Marriage?
A lack of intimacy in a marriage can develop from various factors and damage you, your partner, and your relationship.
So how can you get that spark back in your marriage?
Let's look at four exclusive tips for rebuilding intimacy between you and your partner.
Increase Open Communication
The communication barrier is the biggest hurdle in rebuilding passion in your relationship.
Open communication is the first step toward rebuilding intimacy in a marriage, so be sure to set aside time for open, honest conversations with each other. Discuss any unresolved misunderstandings and problems as soon as possible to keep them from rotting and causing cracks in your relationship.
Be sure to discuss your sex life — or lack thereof — frankly and respectfully. Each party should listen intently to one other and be understanding. The goal isn't to point fingers — it's to understand one another and devise a plan to rebuild your sex life.
Express Affection With Words
A lack of expressions of respect and affection can break down intimacy over time, so work hard to express your regard for your mate as often as possible. But don't let it become routine — keep it sincere, so they don't feel patronized.
Be free with compliments, both in private and in public. Focus on motivating and building your mate up, especially when facing challenges.
When you continue to express your feelings freely and become their vocal support, they will feel encouraged, cherished, and respected. And those feelings can increase their desire for you, increasing the frequency and intensity of your sex life.
Demonstrate Affection With Actions
You and your partner may have gotten caught up in the routine of day-to-day responsibilities. If you notice that you don't spend much time together or complete any romantic activities, you may need to work on demonstrating affection.
These changes don't have to be anything drastic. You can introduce small romantic gestures, like an intimate massage into your weekly routine, like:
- Planning weekly dates
- Cooking for your partner
- Eating at least one meal a day together
- Giving your partner a small gift
- Doing a chore for them that they hate doing
- Dressing up nicely for them
- Leaving them notes
You can also ramp up the heat by introducing sexy surprises. These can include:
- Teasing touches and whispers as you complete day-to-day activities
- Lap dance in some sexy lingerie
- Starting a role-play scenario
- Giving your partner a sensual massage
Don't be afraid to get creative!
You may be surprised at how your partner responds.
Introduce Sex Toys in the Bedroom
It can also take pressure performance off your partner if they suffer from sexual dysfunction. They can let the toy do more of the work while still enjoying intimacy with you. This can go a long way to strengthening your bond and increasing anticipation.
You may feel reluctant or apprehensive to discuss the subject with your partner, especially if you're in the beginning stages of rebuilding your sex life. But you don't have to worry!
Vibrating Slimline Massager
This intriguing toy will fulfill your deepest cravings solo or with a companion. The massager is whisper-quiet for private fun and has pleasing vibration settings.
As we mentioned above, open communication is always the best bet. So tell them clearly why you want to use sex toys. Make sure you emphasize that you want to try sex toys to bring you closer together and enhance your pleasure.
Never force them to comply or surprise them with a new toy.
You should always talk about what toys you'd both be comfortable with and let them know before you even purchase the sex toy. And if it seems too overwhelming, you can pick out one toy and start slowly before venturing onto more daring toys.
Sex Toys for Married Couples
Once you and your mate are on the same page about sex toys, you can each choose which you would prefer. You can also use sex toys to get yourself off as you rebuild your intimacy.
Sex Toys for Wives
Several sex toys are perfect for wives to use on their own if they need to take the edge off.
Vibrating Finger Massager
The SELF + JIMMYJANE Vibrating Finger Massager is designed to be a natural extension of your finger. The flexible, body-safe silicone tip makes it easy to massage sensitive areas.
Solis FORM 6
If you're looking for unique vibrations, the waterproof Solis FORM 6 is perfect. With two motors that operate at different speeds, a curved shape, an angled head, and a warming mode, this unique vibrator will have your toes curling in pleasure in no time.
Reflexx Rabbit 1
The two-in-one Reflexx Rabbit 1 gives you the best of both worlds with a flexible U-shaped design that stimulates your clitoris and G-spot at the same time. Two independently controlled motors with ten vibration modes allow you to control your pleasure, and the warming mode keeps things hot as you climax.
Solis Ascend 2 Pro
The elegant Solis Ascend 2 Pro gives you intense stimulation thanks to its flexible dual ear design that teases multiple erogenous zones simultaneously. With two individually controlled vibrating motors, three speeds, and seven patterns per ear plus a warming mode, this vibrator is a favorite of many women.
You don't have to worry about dropping your vibrator with the Curved Gripp. This vibrating massager features an ergonomic handle for easy positioning. The 25 vibration modes and unique curved shape will provide the perfect stimulation to your g-spot or clitoris.
Like the Curved Gripp, the Dual Gripp features an ergonomic handle for easy positioning and a unique curved design. The two dual motors toggle between 25 vibration modes for mind-blowing clitoral and g-spot stimulation for leg-shaking orgasms.
Sex Toys for Husbands
We didn't forget the guys! We've got several high-quality sex toys designed for men to enjoy.
The C-Ring has three speeds and seven vibration patterns for limitless fun. This ring can build slowly or release quickly. The button control makes changing intensity easy.